Time and money…the two things in life there never seems to be enough of. I constantly feel like I’m running out of time to get the things I both need and want to do done. There are not enough hours in the day. I guess the bigger issue is I’m still learning (and not doing a very good job of it!) how to be “Mommy Lindsay”, “Wife Lindsay”, “Home-keeper-upper Lindsay”, “Worker Bee Lindsay” and just “Lindsay.” Of course “Mommy” is my most important “title” and if I could only have one for the rest of my life I would choose that in a heartbeat! Madison is everything to me and I don’t want to miss anything she does! This in turn brings us back to NOT.ENOUGH.TIME!!!! She is growing so quickly…every day brings a new skill making her more of a little girl than a baby. I love seeing her personality blossom, but part of me yearns for that little baby that was completely dependent on me. Why did I not spend more time just holding her? Everyone told me how quickly it would go, and I tried to just stop some days and just be with her, but it wasn’t enough. I need to rewind…I need to go back! Why doesn’t life come equipped with a DVR?
Anyway, being “Mommy” is my most important job. I drop anything and everything for it. But being “Wife” is also important. He is my support, my partner in this parenting gig. He is my support and partner in life. I feel bad that there are nights that I just want to go to bed right after I put her down because I’m just so tired. I love him more than anything, and although I know I’m doing better at nurturing our relationship, I’m not doing as well as I should be. It’s hard. He asks me more often than I would like, “What’s wrong? You look sad” I don’t want to be sad, I just feel like I’m barely keeping my head above water, and that creeps into my attitude towards him…I really need to work on that.
Then there’s “Home-keeper-upper Lindsay” Yeah, she’s one of those that’s supposed to “be” but really isn’t there enough. The house is a mess…always. I know with an 8 month old and two dogs it’s hard, but it makes me crazy. There’s dog hair everywhere. I have been tempted to shave Zoey many times…seriously; the Golden Retriever hair I find everywhere is ridiculous. Besides the hair, there’s dust, there’s crumbs, there’s formula, there’s the laundry…it never ends. I need one day a week where I have a couple hours alone to just clean, but that’s not going to happen so I guess I need to figure it out with her there.
“Worker Bee Lindsay”…thankfully this one only has to exist for a couple more months (course then she will be replaced with “Student Lindsay’, but who’s keeping track!) My job is a job…it gives me a paycheck twice a month. Other than that, there’s not much good I can say about it. Working for Brokers (well basically sales people) is hard. They take, take, take, but don’t do much giving. They need everything yesterday, but give it all to you tomorrow. They are not “team players” which in turn makes me look like I’m not either because heaven forbid I be helping someone out when they think they need something NOW (which they usually don’t). It’s frustrating and draining to be in this environment every day. I’m really looking forward to giving my notice…which hopefully will be to quit, not just request part-time. Because quitting would obviously mean even less money, and I’m really scared it’s not going to be doable.
We are literally going to have enough for bills and groceries (and really I’m not sure how much I’ll have for groceries!) Its scary, and I ask myself daily if I’m being selfish trying to go back to school now. I really felt like this was God’s timing, but its getting closer and closer, and we still don’t know childcare for the princess or how we’re really going to survive. I’m starting to think I wanted it so bad, I “made” it God’s timing. The school is S.L.O.W.L.Y. going over my application and transcripts, and I’m patiently (haha, yeah right) waiting on their response. Is this God’s way of telling me, “Just wait.”? I feel like I’ve been waiting for too long already…I’m not getting any younger! I want to have another child in the next 4-5 years…That has me finishing school, maybe teaching a year (if I was lucky enough to get a job right after graduation), and then having another kid. I feel like in the long run, I’m doing something for the betterment of our family, but not sure if this is the right time. I’m trying to put all my faith and trust in God that He will provide, but I’m only human, and it’s starting to really get down to the wire…
But back to the “Lindsay’s”…which would bring us to just “Lindsay.” I feel selfish when I try to take time for myself…I feel like this is really the least important role I play, and when I’m portraying this one, I’m cutting time out of my other more important roles. I want to exercise at least an hour a day…I usually get in about 25-40 minutes (depending on what I choose to do that day), but if Tony’s home, I feel guilty because after I exercise and then shower, that’s an hour or so that I could have been spending with him, but I chose myself instead. I cherish my lunch hour, and admittedly sometimes take a little longer, because I can just sit and read. I don’t have to feel guilty that I’m not being “Mommy”, “Wife”, or “Home-Keeper-Upper” because I have to be at work. But I would love to go to the park on a Sunday afternoon and just lay on a blanket and read…but I can’t I have too many roles to play on the weekend and just “Lindsay” is not one of them.
I have so much more I need to write about, but this is long enough, so it will all have to wait for another day.
6.25.2009
Time and Money
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 9:31 AM 2 comments
Labels: family, frustration, marriage, Mother's Love, wonderful husband
6.05.2009
8 Months! Already!
My baby is 8 months today. I can't believe she's been here for the exact length of time that I knew I was pregnant! The pregnancy went fast, but NOTHING compared to how fast these last 8 months have gone! It is so amazing how much a child changes in that first year. The growth is amazing and sad all at once. I told Tony last night after I went in to check on her one last time before bed, "She looks more like a little girl and less like a baby everyday." Its amazing how that realization can make me want to cry remembering how tiny she was, but also make me so excited for the little girl she is becoming.
She has a personality like nothing else. She is such a happy little girl! She makes some of the funniest faces, and loves to talk. She's also recently started "singing" to herself in the car...its so adorable. She gives kisses now, too. Wet, slobbery kisses, but the best kisses I've ever received! She will also kiss her animals in the bathtub now.
On Wednesday, June 3, my baby crawled. The look of accomplishment on her face was priceless! She was SO proud of herself. Yesterday morning, Tony said she crawled over the couch where she proceeded to try and pull herself up. I know that once she gets strong enough to get herself all the way up, she's going to crawl to a place she can pull herself up and start cruising. The girl loves to stand! If you hold her hands for her, she will walk. She can feel free to wait a couple months before walking on her own, though...Mommy really won't mind!
I will try and upload some pictures when I get home!! Happy Eight Months, Madison! Mommy and Daddy love you SO MUCH!!
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 9:21 AM 1 comments
Labels: family, Madison, monthly update, Mother's Love, update
4.13.2009
Happy Easter
We had a great Easter weekend! My mom, brother, and his girlfriend came down Friday afternoon and we went to the mall to see the Easter Bunny. Madison was about as impressed with him as she was with Santa!
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 9:20 PM 2 comments
4.05.2009
Six Months Old!!!
Dear Madison,
Today you are six months old. I feel like you were born, I blinked, and all of a sudden it was six months later! On one hand I can’t believe you’ve been with us for six months already, and on the other hand I can’t believe it’s only been six months! I feel like you’ve been with us forever! You made the transition from husband and wife to daddy and mommy very easy for us! You are such a happy and entertaining little girl! You are getting more talkative everyday. Today, I’m not sure there was time that you were awake that you weren’t talking. You are so passionate about whatever it is you’re talking about, and I can’t wait to know what you’re trying to say. You make it harder every day for me to go to work. I feel like you’re growing even faster now, and I’m afraid to miss anything! The good news is that sooner than later I will get to spend a lot more time with you as Mommy is going to go back to school to be a teacher. Although I know it will be stressful for me to be a full-time student and a full-time Mommy, I know your Daddy will do everything he can to help Mommy achieve her dream. I’m sure there will nights I don’t see much of you, but I will just have to “keep my eye on the prize” and know that in the end, we will get to spend SO MUCH MORE time together!!
Here are some of the things you’re doing now:
· Sitting on your own
· Eating seven ounces
· Eating cereal once a day (most days)
· Eating ½ container of vegetables a day
· Eating ½ container of fruit a day
· Showing A LOT of interest in your puppies
· Starting to open and close your hand like you’re waving, and just being amazed!
· Learning to use your tongue more when you’re babbling
· Rolling to get where you want
· LOVING your pacifier! If you see it out of the corner of your eye, you must have it.
· Splashing in your bathtub. I’m pretty sure you would stay in your bathtub all night if I would let you.
· You’re very good while I brush your gums. I hope this continues once you start getting teeth!
· Starting to drink from your sippy cup. You’re not a big fan of the juice yet so we’re still working on this one!
· Still sleeping through night (about 99% of the time!)
· Pulling Mommy’s (and Grandma’s and Nanny’s) hair…seriously, I think it might be your favorite pastime right now!
Madison, you have a brought a joy to your Daddy and me that we never knew could be experienced! You are everything I could have asked for in a daughter, and SO. MUCH.MORE! We love you, princess!!
Love,
Mommy
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 4:26 PM 0 comments
Labels: family, Madison, monthly update, Mother's Love
1.05.2009
Happy 3 Months!
My sweet Madison,
I can’t believe you are already three months old! I feel like they just placed you in my arms for the first time yesterday! This is also the first day Mommy had to leave you in the morning to go to work. It wasn’t easy, but it also wasn’t as bad as I had anticipated! I miss you constantly while I’m at work, and I stare at your picture constantly, counting down the minutes until I get to see and hold you again! You are growing so quickly now; I think you get bigger everyday when I get home from work. Your little personality is quickly becoming apparent, and I LOVE it!! You are such a happy little baby. You love to smile, and LOVE to talk! After your bath before bed is your most talkative time. I love just listening to you “tell me about your day.” You get so excited about something, and your voice gets higher pitched, and your arms and legs just start going. It is the sweetest thing! You are starting to prefer a bottle during the day. This makes me happy and sad all at the same time. On one hand, it’s much more convenient when we are out and about, but on the other hand, I miss that bonding time. Luckily for me, you still like to nurse in the morning and right before you go to bed. When the time comes to give those up, it will kill me! I love staring at you at night in your dim room with your lullabies playing; taking in the scent of your lotion soaked skin. As your eyes slowly become heavier and heavier, I thank God for you over and over!! I don’t know what I did to deserve such a beautiful daughter, but I’m so thankful God chose you for me! You fit perfectly in the crook of my arm while you nurse. It’s as if you truly were a part of me, and God just split us apart so I could share you with others! I love your last few moments of consciousness before finally giving in and slipping into a deep sleep for the night. You try so hard to stay awake…you twist your head all around, and make any noise you can to try and just get a few more seconds. But without fail, you always succumb to the sleepiness you feel. I usually continue to rock you for a while after you fall asleep. Your breathing falls into a comfortable rhythm, and eventually the pacifier comes flying out. I continue to just stare at you, and marvel at how perfect you are! I tell you multiple times how much I love you. I make sure to tell you every night that I will be here whenever you need me; whether it’s 20 minutes from now, or 20 years.
We celebrated your First Christmas last month. It was surreal to remember that last Christmas was when your Daddy told me we were going to start trying for a baby, and this Christmas I got to share it with you!! Next year will be even more fun as you will be almost 15 months old, and I’m sure you will just want to rip the wrapping paper off, but that doesn’t take away how special this Christmas was. This holiday takes on a whole new meaning when you’re a Mommy (something I hope you don’t experience for quite some time!J) It becomes much more about spending time with family, and less about the presents. (although I had to restrain myself from buying everything in site for you!)
It’s hard to believe you’re passing the ¼ mark on your way to turning 1. This is going way too fast!! They tell you to cherish every moment because it DOES go so fast…but I have been, and it’s still going too fast. Before I know it, I’ll be chasing after you as you crawl all over the house, and then walking, and eventually I’ll “get” to deal with those teenage hormones! I’m sure we’ll have our share of arguments; I can already tell we’re enough alike to butt heads now and again, but always remember that I love you more than anything, and will always be there to rejoice with you in good times, and comfort you in bad. I love you, Madison Nicole…don’t ever forget that!
Love,
Mommy
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 11:07 AM 4 comments
Labels: family, Holidays, Madison, monthly update, Mother's Love
11.27.2008
Madison's First Thanksgiving
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 9:04 PM 1 comments
10.07.2008
Madison's Birth Story
Friday, October 3, we went into the hospital at 7:30pm to start the Cervadil for the induction the next day. My mom, brother, and Tony's mom all came to see us that night, and everyone was gone by 11pm. I wasn't in any pain yet, but was just so excited I couldn't sleep. I finally fell asleep around 1am. At 2:30am I woke up with moderate contractions. I was already having to pee every 10 minutes it seemed, and with the contractions, it was making it very hard to sleep. I finally decided to give in and ask the nurse for some pain medication so I could get some sleep since I knew Saturday was going to be a long day (if only I had known how long!). Just as I was getting ready to call her, she came in to tell me I needed to roll over because the baby had been sleeping for a while, and they just wanted to make sure she was ok...which also meant I couldn't have any medicine for at least 20 minutes while they monitored her to make sure she was ok. 25 minutes later, the nurse was back with the medicine! YEA!! She told me it would take about 2-3 minutes to take effect, and I would start to feel like I'd had a couple drinks. 2-3 minutes, yeah right! About 30 seconds after she put the IV in, I was light headed, and ready to sleep! I slept so soundly for the next 2 hours, it was heaven!
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 3:56 PM 2 comments
Labels: birth, family, Madison, Mother's Love
9.05.2008
Labor Day Fun
Tony had to work all day on Labor Day, so I stayed up at my mom's for an extra night. We decided to take advantage of the nice weather, and go play some Putt-Putt. I was not too thrilled to be going, as I'm not very good. But the first game, I WON!!! But I was back to form on the second game when I came in last...a very distant last! I still had a lot of fun, though! Here are some pics from the day. Mom getting ready to sink on in!
Andrew "teeing" off!
Proof that I rock! (well at least on the first game I did...I think I finished with a 51 on the second game! OOPS!)
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 8:52 PM 1 comments
Labels: family
Baby Shower

The food, along with the Feeding and Bathing "stations" from Kim and Erica
Cake and cupcakes made by my Aunt Kathy
YAY PRESENTS!! :-)
My mom, ME, Tony's mom

Me with my cousin Stefanie
Me with my cousin Stacie
Erica and me...two hot mommas!
Kim and me...college roomies and best friends!
We got so much stuff for Madison! I'm still trying to figure out where it's all going to go! I still have two more showers (one at work, and one at Tony's church). It's wonderful being this blessed, but it's kinda stressful! (Which I mean in the best way possible!!) I told Tony last night that we better hope when we decide to have a second child that it's a girl! That way we won't have to buy much!!
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 8:32 PM 1 comments
Labels: Baby Shower, family, friendship
9.03.2008
Someday I'll catch up...
I have multiple things to post...just no time. I have to write about my baby shower this weekend (absolutely amazing!), Putt-Putt on Labor Day, 36 Week pic, and our 3 year anniversary (which is today!!) So for now, I'll just leave you with a wonderful picture of us on our wedding day:
I promise posts are coming soon...there's just a lot to do right now. Hopefully I'll have pictures of Maddie's room soon, too!
8.08.2008
TGIF!
I can’t tell you how happy I am that today is Friday! It wasn’t really a bad week (after all, I got the ultrasound on Tuesday, and got to leave early for a doctor appointment on Wednesday), but I’m just so ready for this weekend to begin! There is so much stuff I need to do this weekend, I know it’s just going to fly by, but it should be fun stuff…all for baby! But tonight, it’s all about me! Well, that is after I order these adorable Birth Announcements! I have to pre-order the envelopes so I can get them all addressed now, and then after she’s born, all I have to do is upload the photo, and enter the information! And after I bite the bullet and order a new diaper bag…yeah, I’m getting a new one. It would have bothered me every time I carried it, but at least I know how to order it correctly this time! But after that, I plan to get my Rock On with…
Guitar Hero! I’ve beaten the easy level once, but Tony was playing last night, and I think he may have some of my scores beat, so I must go back, and make sure I have the high score! J You see, I am not a video game guru like him, so I feel the need to be the best at something that I can actually play! I can compete against him in the Mario & Sonic Olympic Games, but ultimately…he’s MUCH better than I am. I would just like to have one game in which I am better…that’s all. I’m not competitive at all! That should keep me busy until he gets off work at 9 tonight!
Tomorrow I’m going to the State Fair with the sister-in-law, Tammy, mother-in-law, and my enchanting niece, Sarah. I cannot wait to have my corn on the cob. It is seriously the most mouth-watering corn I’ve ever tasted! And then it’s on to the animals!! I really can’t wait to see the cows…if I lived on a farm, I’d have cows. They have such sweet eyes, and I just want to kiss them! They have a separate area for all the newborn calves, so I’m excited to see them, too. And of course, we’ll have to see the world’s (or maybe its “country’s”…I don’t know) biggest hog. The thing is HUGE! I will definitely have to take pictures!
That night Tony and I are planning on going to eat at Bravo. They just opened their newest location in Greenwood this past week, so I’m sure we’ll have quite a wait, but it’s so worth it! Who knows what else we’ll do, but I’m really excited about eating there!
Sunday, it’s all about Madison! Last weekend, Tammy gave me about six boxes of clothes ranging from 6 months, all the way up to 18 months! I went through and sorted them last weekend, but this weekend is the time to start putting things into the drawers of her dresser! I also want to start cleaning and disinfecting all of the toys that we’ve acquired already! A lot of them were mine from when I was a baby, so I’m sure there’s 25 years of grime just waiting to be destroyed by yours truly! (and a little bit of bleach solution!) I also need to bring in the swing and bouncer (which we also got from Tammy) and start getting those cleaned up. I especially want to bring the swing in and start running it every now and then to HOPEFULLY (and here’s to really hoping!!!) get Nugget and Zoey used to it moving! They’re so skittish, so I’m hoping seeing it day after day will help, and maybe by the time she’s born, they’ll be used to it!
Hope you all have a wonderful weekend, and I will hopefully have pictures from the fair up sometime soon!
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 4:00 PM 2 comments
Labels: family, Madison, plans, video games
8.05.2008
32 Weeks today!
Today we start the 8 week countdown!! It's going so fast, and it's just going to go faster once she's born!! I am so excited to start this new chapter in our lives...I'm already thinking of what fun traditions we can start for the holidays!! I think for the fall/Halloween, we definitly have to make a trip to the pumpkin patch. There's one not too far from the house, and it looks like so much fun! Weather will decide if we start that one this year, or wait for next year. I really want to start a tradition of making Christmas cookies with her. I'm not sure if that will happen, but I think it would be so fun to look forward to decorating them each year! Tony thinks I'm crazy, but oh well!
We're going for our second 3D ultrasound tonight. Hopefully she's head down and showing her beautiful face! I keep reading that "you should be able to identify different body parts as they're moving around..." yeah, I have no idea what's where, but I DO know it hurts most of the time when she moves. Should make the next 2 months interesting!! I'm hoping to see what's in my pelvis bone tonight because for the past 3 or 4 nights, it's felt like she's in there just pushing as hard as she can on it! Well look for a belly pic and pics of Madison either tonight or tomorrow!!
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 4:19 PM 0 comments
7.29.2008
Madison and Daddy's song
I don't know if I'm allowed to be the one to pick a song for Tony and Madison, but I'm doing it, so there! The first time I heard this song, I couldn't stop myself from crying. All I could think about was how great of a dad Tony is going to be. It absolutely warms my heart to know that God has blessed me with such an amazing man to be the father to my children!
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 9:04 AM 1 comments
Labels: family
7.12.2008
3D Ultrasound!!






Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 1:13 PM 1 comments
7.09.2008
Happy Birthday Zoey!!
The birthday treats!!
Nugget with her treat...running away from me because she's scared of the camera!
Zoey enjoying her birthday treat.
Posted by Lindsay, Tony, and Madison at 6:33 PM 1 comments
Labels: family